A further thought on relationships

 

Further to my previous post under the section of relationships I thought this short paragraph might be helpful.

I think one of the difficulties that can arise in relationships where one of the partners has Aspergers is an apparent inconsistency in the person who has Aspergers. I think back to my own experience of a relationship I had with a neurotypical woman. One day I would want to be with her and could be very loving towards her. The next day I may want to be on my own to ‘recharge the batteries’ so to speak. So to her this would be somewhat puzzling in that she was probably thinking that yesterday he was lovely to me and today he doesn’t seem to want to know me. What she needed to realise was these times alone were vital to me so that the following day I could be with her again and it would be OK. The times I used to spend on my own did NOT mean I was rejecting her or that I didn’t still love her.